Day 6
5/4/2013 @ 12:07 am
I’m sorting out my junk; what is other-afflicted (wounds) and what is self-inflicted (sins), what belongs to me.
Pretty much can say goodbye to sleep tonight. Too stressed out. I have to learn to shut down and relax!
On a much brighter note which I meant to mention yesterday, I have never been prayed over so much in my life. Sandy, Norma, and Dave have been so encouraging and supportive. (Got to remember the book Dave recommend I read. I wrote it down somewhere). They are awesome people, and this is an incredible ministry.
Gonna go shoot some zombies.
@ 1:44 am
Zombies are kicking my butt. Solitaire it is, and if I can’t win at that then I’m just going to play Elizabeth’s Mr. & Mrs. Potato Head dress up game. Can’t exactly lose at dressing a potato.
@ 6:43 am
The way I’m feeling right now, when the conference ends at 4:30 pm tomorrow I’m going to crawl into bed and stay there until Monday.
Dear Dad,
Keep me focused and attentive to what you have for me today. Thank You for who You are, a sovereign God.
Love,
Your daughter
@ 8:02 am
So Sandy says that today is the hardest day. If we can make it today, it’ll all be downhill from here. Are you kidding me? Today is going to be the hardest day? After the past few days, I can’t imagine worse!
@ 9:01 am
Last night God exposed my true heart, leaving it raw and aching. It will only be by His power that I will not reach out to grab for some kind of covering to keep my heart protected because my default is to protect it at all cost. I believe today His plan is for me to continue in my understanding of the masks I wear/wore so I will be able to recognize when I take one off the shelf to put it on. Healing can start when I am aware that I am making a conscious choice to wrap my real heart in a false one.
What is keeping me from opening my heart to God and others? Simple, I’m afraid. Deep down I feel that there is no way God can possibly think I’m worthy of His love, His forgiveness, His grace, His mercy. The only thing I’m deserving of is His punishment. As far as others, if they knew the mess that is me…the insecurities, the fragility, the self-doubt, etc…they wouldn’t love me, they wouldn’t even like me. I run that risk with the words I write at this moment.
I know truth…God loves me and there are people who love me…my problem is getting it past head knowledge. I don’t want to make it sound as if I never feel love, from God or others, I do, more often than not, but I am in a season where it has become a struggle because I resort back to operating out of fear. I’m just plain tired of the hurt. The fear I experience is not of God. What I have and do experience from God is love, grace, mercy, justice, comfort, peace, and now I am looking forward to healing.
Another piercing discovery that I have made while at Potter’s; I am also living in shame…lack of dignity, worthlessness of being, unacceptability and illegitimacy. I am no longer comfortable with that (pretty sure that revelation and gratitude belongs to God).
Dad,
I am open to Your healing, however you choose to send it.
Love,
Your daughter
@ 11:42 am
So we are supposed to label our heart’s defense mechaisms and reflect on our wounds, identify them, list them out. Not only are we supposed to enter into our wounds, they have asked we write some of them on a red felt heart given to us and pin them to our shirts for the remainder of the day. They are asking me to bare my wounds for all to see when I haven’t even shared them with my Dad. How am I supposed to be expected to do that? I’m not strong enough.
I can’t center on every wound that comes to mind (too overwheming), so I will just list the ones that may have caused the deepest gashes:
Death of family
Broken trust
Abandonment
Words/Judgement
Molestation
All these things have created roots of hopelessness, fear, shame, rejection, worthlessness, and bitterness in me. I thought I had become the foremost authority on defense mechanisms. After all, I’ve developed and nurtured them over the years…denial, rationalization, justification, masks, etc…but my defenses are no longer working and the facade is being broken down.
As painful as this process has already been this morning, there has been a release for me. I was told today that it is possible to believe in God for forgiveness, reconciliation, and eternal life and yet still live your life totally in bondage to the lies that have been attached to your wounds. This is not what God desires for me, but I was set free from a lie. The lie that says if you TRULY believe in God, if you TRUST Him enough, and if you have ENOUGH faith, you should be able to give it all over to Him promptly, walk away, and never think of it again.
Notes from Uncovering the Wounds of the Heart
Wounds cannot be repented of. They are not accompanied by authentic guilt but usually false guilt.
The symptoms of every wound not healed will be passed down to the next generation. (I have cursed my children if I do not uncover and allow God to deal with my wounds).
If you do not have God, and have Him deeply, because of the holes in your heart, you will turn to other lovers (idols).
When a wound is punctured, the lie, the accompanying emotions and darkness are exposed.
Realize that your greatest potential is at your place of woundedness. (Use your wounds for God’s glory).
Remember that God will go to any lengths necessary to set your heart free. (Confirmation of my earlier prayer).
@ 1:46 pm
Dad,
Let my roots grow deep in Your love so You can keep me strong.
Love,
Your daughter
@ 3:00 pm
Making a list of significant people in my life and noting the expectations I have placed on each of them. Next step will be evaluating each expectation to see if they are fair and/or reasonable for the person I’ve assigned them to. If the expectation is unfair/unreasonable, then I have to unchain the person from it, but what if it is fair/reasonable and the person still doesn’t meet the expectation, what do I do? I’m thinking it really depends on what the person is capable of giving and what I’m willing to accept. Thanks, Tammy. I was really looking for implicit directions. You were no help at all. Another thing, what do you use to measure fairness/reasonableness? Don’t ask Tammy, she don’t know nothing.
There are a lot of annoying bugs in Texas.
@ 3:52 pm
How to recognize shame working in your life:
Anger when circumstances seem to be out of my control
Fear of emotion
Difficulty saying “no” to people
Fear of failing
Frequent Depression
Addictive habit or compulsive sin
Need to succeed to be accepted
Isolation
Avoidance of getting Into a position of need or dependence
Great difficulty asking for a favor or help
Being a much better giver than receiver
Being uncomfortable in a small group
Feeling tolerated rather than chosen
Having been a recipient, feeling a need to repay
Had some friends evaluate the above statements for me. The responses were not a surprise. 😦
@ 5:29 pm
I have a lot of junk, wounds and sins, that I have hidden in the darkness which need to be exposed by The Light. We were brought into a dark room, eyes closed with only a flashlight. We were instructed to open our eyes and turn on our flashlights. We had to maneuver through strewn garbage (boxes, cans, etc.) to get to our seats. Point: we needed the light to illuminate the trash so we could see the way to our seats. We need Christ’s light to do the same for us in our daily lives. “Without the light of the Holy Spirit, we are nearly defenseless against our own innate tendencies toward self-deception.”
The sins in my heart are:
unforgiveness towards others and myself, pride, worry, selfishness, and jealousy,
Dad,
I repent of and confess to You the sins that I have buried deep within my heart; my unforgivenness, my pride, my worry, my selfishness, and my jealousy. Please forgive me, purify me. My sins can no longer be hidden. I want to encounter Your light. Thank You for being faithful and just in Your forgiveness.
Love,
Your daughter
Side Note: There are two types of healing: healing of the heart and healing of the habits. Even after the heart has been healed, there are behaviors/actions (conditioned responses) that have developed into habits that still need to be broken and healed.
Tonight we will be taking our sins and wounds to the cross and nailing them there. Praying for freedom. I want to leave them there. Please, just let me leave them there.
Dear Dad,
Thank You for the gift You have provided me in being here, for such a time is this.
Love,
Your daughter